For quite a few years there has been a daily ritual which takes place in the late afternoon or evening hours in my home. What began as a cute way to begin a conversation has become almost a tradition which has reached beyond my own children into the lives of their friends. It’s a simple enough question posed to each one of my family members; “What was your high point and your low point for the day?” My family has been passing this question back and forth for so long, we can’t even agree on where we first discovered the idea.
Although I cannot remember the origin of the question or how it began in my own family, I distinctly remember my children rolling their eyes as if to say, “Oh great, mom is at it again, trying to get us to talk.” Guilty as charged! There were some days which begged for the question to be asked, especially when I knew something exciting was going to take place. Likewise, it was important for me to ask when I anticipated a day of difficulty or transition in the lives of one of my children. The question served as an opportunity to connect beyond the typical, “How was your day?” Such a typical, boring question usually begged for an equally typical, boring answer, “Fine.” Talk about a conversation killer! To my children’s credit, they soon learned to give up the fight and humor their stubborn mother. Before long, coming up with their high and low points of the day took very little effort, and our family unit was off and running in conversations about our day.
As my children have gotten older, I see the tradition being passed on. One of my sons regularly asks his own college friends what their high point and low point is in their day. My guess is that he has recognized the value of taking the time to be interested enough in someone to even want to know the specifics of their daily life. I am waiting for the day my oldest son asks his students to write about their high point and low point. I know it is coming. Recently, my daughter’s friend got in the car after school, greeted me cheerfully and said, “Hi mom, do you want to know my high point?” Are you kidding? Of course I did, and we quickly initiated a second friend who was in the car into our tradition. My heart was overflowing as I listened to my daughter and her friends eagerly share the moments of their day and process which one they would choose as their best and worst.
The way I see it, every day is made up of a series of high points and low points, all strung together to comprise the tapestry of our life. There is great value in this mental exercise besides just serving as a conversation starter.
- It gives us the opportunity to consciously reflect and evaluate the segments of our day.
- It offers us perspective as we weigh emotions experienced throughout our day.
- It encourages us to be present and thankful.
- It aids us to create a plan for where to place these highs and lows in the scheme of our life.
- It brings the big picture into view so the low points are not given too much power.
- It creates a relational bond and an expectation of connecting.
Sometimes, days are full of low points…..devastating low points, and it is difficult to find the high points, yet they are there in the simplicity of life. We have all been there, and on these days, there is the hope of the high point which sustains us. God promises us these days will not last, and He will carry us through them, offering us strength and wisdom along the way.
“The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” Lamentations 3:22-23
“He shall cover you with His feathers, And under His wings you shall take refuge; His truth shall be your shield and buckler.” Psalm 91:4
“I will lift up my eyes to the hills— From where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, who made heaven and earth. He will not allow your foot to be moved; He who keeps you will not slumber.” Psalm 121:3
“For I the LORD your God will hold your right hand, saying to you, Fear not; I will help you.” Is. 41:13
Sometimes, days are so full of high points, we find our step is a bit lighter and our spirits lifted. On these days, the low points are diminished or put to rest for the sake of our soul being refreshed. Joy and gratitude flow freely, and life is good. It is these days which need to be remembered and logged into our heart so we can draw strength and confidence in God’s provisions for us, even when days are difficult.
“Stand still, and consider the wondrous works of God.” Job 37:14
“Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, & into his courts with praise; be thankful unto him.” Psalm 100:4
“But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” Is. 40:31
“I will meditate on the glorious splendor of your majesty, and on your wondrous works. they shall speak of the might of your awesome acts, and I will declare your great deeds. They shall utter the memory of your great goodness, and shall sing of your righteousness.” Psalm 145:5-7
Processing our daily high points and low points is often dependent on our attitude and perspective. With the right attitude, low points transition into opportunities for God to show up. I don’t believe for a minute He would pass up any opportunity to show himself to us and others. Keeping track of how these low points are reconciled produces growth in us. Remembering our high points, journaling them and retelling them becomes a witness of God’s faithfulness in our lives. They provide a running tab for us to reflect back on when the low points threaten to shake us, so our faith remains grounded.
It is never too late to begin processing our high points and low points. Life is full of them, and everyone has them to share. Maybe they are just waiting on us to ask the right question, which isn’t, “How was your day?” Talk about a conversation killer!
So, please share….what was your high point and low point today?