I’ve been writing in this quiet space for a few years now, and one of the topics I rarely write about is marriage.  Although I am a huge advocate of marriage and believe marriage matters, I never feel qualified.  Because quite frankly, I’ve never been really good at marriage. Partly because my expectations of all that would come after “I do” have not matched up with reality. Don’t get me wrong, there have been plenty of beautiful, magnificent moments, three amazing kids and too many furry critters to count.  But there have also been hurdles and struggles sharper and more jagged than I ever imagined having the strength or will to navigate. And these have challenged my commitment and staying power so deeply, that sometimes the only thread holding this sacred union together was my/our Continue Reading